Lara Kudayisi

I met a guy in the church choir at 17. We planned to get married in 7 years when I was finished with school. A year into the relationship, I discovered that I was 5 months and 2 weeks pregnant, after I had broken up with him.

I was the choir coordinator of my fellowship in school and the PRO of my department. I went through so much shame, but I had my baby in school.

After a while, I started losing my esteem because my dad made me feel so terrible about my mistake. I lost confidence in myself so I was desperately searching to be loved and validated by someone.

I was broken and I started attracting many broken people who had no definite plans for me. I was heartbroken 14 times and I had 15 abortions in the process.

My last relationship was the worst because I met him after rededicating my life to God in church. He was the ideal man, my birthday mate and he was a brother in church. We planned to get married and we were moving towards that.

I found out that I was pregnant again and I thought there was no point removing it, since we were already planning to get married. Bro refused and threatened to walk out of the relationship if I didn’t abort the baby. I did eventually after so much resistance. He broke up with me 7 days after I did the abortion. I was completely shattered!

This prompted me to fast for many days. That was when God told me that I was never going to marry the guy because I had made him my idol. He was also going to disturb God’s purpose for my life, which was sharing my story to help people. My guy was against it and I dropped it just to please him, so that I could marry him.

It was after this revelation that I went to Facebook and started sharing my story when my daughter was 10. I started going to schools and churches sharing my story so other people could be helped. I met my husband while doing this and we are now married with two kids.

Now, I am a Relationship Coach, a Therapist and The Matchmaking Mistress. I help Singles attract their dream partners and walk down the aisle to a Happily Ever After.

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